On grief, losing a parent, and people saying the wrong thing.
Like a lot of people, I think, I tend to err on the side of saying nothing for fear of saying the wrong thing; maybe it’s better to risk the wrong thing than risk leaving a friend alone.
People are going to say stupid things and you just have to remember they’re doing it out of love and not knowing any better.
A friend of mine just ended his relationship, a relationship that he and his fiancé were expecting to last forever. A relationship that felt so real to an outsider like me that when I heard of it’s demise I literally did a double take.
And a mutual friend of ours who had been in that situation before said to him “People are going to say stupid things and you just have to remember they’re doing it out of love and not knowing any better.”
One of the things I’ve learned so intensely in the last year is that you can’t control what anyone else does. You can’t anticipate what kind of reaction they’re going to have to surprising or upsetting news. You can’t anticipate how…
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