Hello from a raft

Hello from a raft

Content notes: Climate change and other natural disasters; grief; anxiety; alcohol; class and privilege.

The Titanic is sinking and I’m standing in line for a Manhattan.

I’m writing this on June 29, 2021, the day after the hottest day in Seattle’s history — so far.

Yesterday was a crisis, and I don’t know how to talk about it. TikTok is a series of bitterly comedic videos about how much the heat sucks; Twitter is a parade of disaster. One feels too casual and the other is hopeless.

Elisa and I spent yesterday moving from place to place in a desperate attempt to find somewhere to keep Eva comfortable, scared that this excessive heat would do her real damage (let alone ourselves.) We started in my sister’s RV, until the midday sun, our laptops, and the heat of two humans and a dog became too much for its AC to handle.

Fuck it, we said. Let’s find a hotel. This is an emergency. Eva was panting like a machine gun, her ears glued back to her skull, pacing around the RV every few minutes before flopping down, then getting up to do it again. She’s an idiot dog: she frequently seems like she forgets that water exists and is picky about drinking from bowls that aren’t hers when she’s out and about. We would touch her brindled black body and I would say hopefully “She doesn’t feel too warm,” as if I could explain to her that she was going to be fine when demonstrably, she was struggling.

We were really just trying to tell ourselves not to panic. You have to. There is a point at which you say, “The iceberg isn’t that big,” ideally not to avoid the problem completely but to keep yourself from freezing up at the enormity of the disaster.

But it was getting bad. So we found a luxury hotel, the Fairmont Olympic in downtown Seattle, the last place in town with any rooms available. We booked one. We went home at 1:30, as the worst heat of the day was starting, packed bags, and headed downtown.

A meme: the text reads "I've had enough." The image is of someone pointing a gun at the sun.
This whole post is a real downer so please enjoy this meme to get you through the next 1500 words.

So, okay, abrupt tonal switch here because the hotel was a trip and the literary style is only going to get at half my feelings about it. (Can you tell I didn’t edit this much before posting?)

A security guy outside the back entrance of the hotel tells us that valet parking is “kind of a mess” and suggests we park in the garage across the street. As we turn the corner to approach the main entrance of the hotel we see a line of cars into the street. Kind of a mess indeed. We park in the garage. We grab our stuff, haul it across the street to the front door, and find the lobby.

The lobby is slammed. It appears that every person in Seattle with pets, kids, or elderly family members and the disposable income to book a $450/night room at the last minute has done so, and the line for check-in snakes around the lobby. Elisa gets in line, while I sit with our bags. Eva splays out on the cool marble floor, panting hard, too tired to get up to her usual barking and lunging at other dogs.

While the line trudges past me, I overhear a woman saying that the hotel has overbooked by 20% and has been sending people to another hotel. There are at least twenty people ahead of Elisa in line, as far as I can tell from my position on the other side of the lobby. I text her these deets. We cross our fingers, but I’m already trying to think of contingency plans. And by contingency plans I mainly mean “how long can we stay in this lobby, and how will we survive when we get home?”

How will we survive?

Some time later, Elisa rejoins us and I can tell immediately that we’re screwed. I’ve been texting with my family — my sister has offered again to let us stay in the RV, while my mom is suggesting we look at another hotel — and the decision fatigue is starting to get to both of us. The fatigue and the heat and, like–

Have you ever grieved for people you don’t know? Or for a time? A way of life? Probably you have; I think in 2020 a lot of us experienced intense societal grief. For 600,000 people dead, even if none of them were people we knew; for George Floyd or Breonna Taylor, Tony McDade or Oluwatoyin Salau, Lorenzo Anderson and Summer Taylor; for our own understanding of the world as we were thrown headlong into survival patterns. You might have grieved for Notre Dame Cathedral as it burned, the Amazon rainforest as it burned, Australia, California; the World Trade Center, Pulse Nightclub, Las Vegas, Christchurch; Hurricane Katrina, Fukushima, Indonesia …

I’m making myself sad. I’m sorry if this is making you sad too. I meant to make this a funny, righteously angry post about the white academics we overheard trash talking affirmative action in the hotel lobby, but– Maybe another time. Thanks for being here with me through it.

Anyway. Maybe you’ve heard of climate grief:

Climate grief is related both to changes that have already happened and to changes that are coming, or are in the process of happening. Thus, climate grief often has elements of what the grief theorists call “anticipatory grief” or “transitional grief”. This complicates things. All kinds of grieving can be difficult in our contemporary societies, where an understanding of private or public grieving has long been neglected. But anticipatory grief is always hard. What is truly lost, or will be? When do we grieve those losses – when they begin, or when they end? It is easier to grieve concrete losses that have happened, such as the loss of a certain part of an ecosystem or community. But how does one grieve losses which are ongoing for decades?

Panu Pihkala, “Climate grief: How we mourn a changing planet”

And I’m sitting in this crowded luxury hotel lobby, the most crowded place I have been since March 2020, wearing a mask while most of the people around me aren’t, and my brain can’t settle between the thoughts We will probably all be okay even if we’re uncomfortable and I am so scared for all of us.

A man gets into the check-in line that snakes past our seat. He looks around at the chaos of the lobby and says, in an incredulous half-laughing tone, in an Australian accent, “It’s like we’re on the Titanic!”

I want to say, “Yes, dude, it’s an emergency. We’re refugees.” Elisa tells me later that she wanted to say, “Yeah, and the poor are all going to drown.”

There’s no band, but there is a bar.

Here is Eva on one of the fancy couches, looking her normal bright-eyed and serene self! She’s doing fine. I figured you might need a puppy break because I sure do.

We end up finding a table tucked away in the back corner of the Fairmont Olympic’s lobby. (I honestly would go back under better circumstances just to hang out in the lobby. It’s fancy and spacious and really pleasant to spend time in.) We’ll be there from 3:30 to nearly 8PM. We try to work a little bit.

When it’s 5 o’clock somewhere, which is to say here, I go get in line for a drink at the bar. This line, like the one at check-in — which is still all the way around the edge of the lobby, three hours after we first arrived — spills out of the bar proper and curls around itself. A guy comes up and asks, “Is this the end of the line? For the bar?”

“Yep, this is it.” Wan smile, which he can’t see because I’m wearing a glittery mask.

“This place must specialize in lines!” he says. I think I say, “Huh.”

To be fair to him, it takes almost forty minutes to get through the line, not because it’s particularly long but because there is a single bartender. I’ve seen a handful of waitstaff striding around the lobby. I keep thinking about how I don’t have any cash to tip them with because of the pandemic. I wonder if anyone is tipping them, or the harried valets trying to deal with all the giant cars clogging the front entrance. Why would anyone look at that line of cars and decide “Yeah, I’m gonna make this someone else’s problem”?

Climate change is always someone else’s problem, like, it’s a problem for Newtok but not Seattle, or it’s a problem for unhoused neighbors but we have a home, or it’s a problem for (and of) the corporations and governments but we’re individuals. These Somebody Else’s Problem Fields have varying levels of validity, insofar as individual action can’t be the solution for climate change, or eroding land in Alaska isn’t really something a Seattlite can directly affect.

But the housing and homelessness crises have always been our problems. And all of this is going to continue to be our problem. And all of us in this lobby are so fucking lucky because all of us had at least $450 we were ready and able to spend on an emergency stay at a luxury fucking hotel, and yet, we are all stranded, and yet we are still going to be fine, probably.

I know, with great and numbing certainty, that we’ll probably be fine, and that somewhere in Seattle, a business owner is shooing a homeless person out of the shade of their entryway and into 110℉ heat, and that person will probably not be fine. Hell, some of the babes in arms in this room, whose parents can’t get a room because Booking.com lied to them in an algorithmic effort to make more money, may have to go back to their baking hot homes, and may not be fine.

The Titanic is sinking.

I’m trying not to cry.

The guy behind me is joined by someone that I assume is his wife. “I’ve been in this line since before I called you about the parking situation!” he tells her, in the voice of someone who sounds ready to leave a bare-minimum tip and complain to his friends about the atrocious service.

Maybe that’s not fair. Maybe he’s feeling the same horror and hopelessness I am and expressed it as a disbelieving comment on the length of the wait, to highlight how unbelievable the whole situation is. But all I can think is If he says anything disparaging about the staff I might punch him.

Behind us a young couple with a fluffy dog and a baby in a stroller are looking around the room in hopeless exhaustion, unable to find someplace they can sit down. “I saw a woman taking up space for five people,” the mother with the dog says.

I don’t know what to do.

I order a Manhattan.

It’s really good.

I reach out to friends. They are instantly, effusively ready to shelter us. We make arrangements. Eva and Elisa will crash in an air-conditioned room; I’ll have the apartment to myself and can cool it down without also worrying about the dog.

We’re going to be okay.

When we get back to the apartment to re-pack we discover that the freezer has somehow been left open since the afternoon. The paletas we bought last Friday are goo.

On the drive over to drop off Elisa and Eva, I muse, “I really ought to be journaling about this. I keep thinking — The Titanic is sinking and all I want is a Manhattan,” and then I start to cry.

“To my poor fellow-sufferers: My heart overflows with grief for you all and is laden with sorrow that you are weighed down with this terrible burden that has been thrust upon us. May God be with us and comfort us all.” 

-Eleanor Smith, wife of the late Captain Smith of the RMS Titanic

Thank you for reading, and thank you to everyone who helped us or offered help to us yesterday: Regina and Deke, Chase and Kristen, Jéhan, our parents, the hardworking Fairmont Olympia staff.

Again, I want to be clear: as stories of riding out the heat wave go, ours represents one of privilege. We had a lot of help and a lot of resources. And it was still exhausting and scary in a very real way. For people who don’t have the resources we had, it was undoubtedly worse, and this will not be the last time an environmental crisis affects our, or your, community.

If you’re in Seattle and would like to help people most likely to be affected by crises like this, please consider donating to:

And please feel free to comment with information about help in your network.

Thanks for reading, and take care. 💙


I have this nervous tic where I fold cranes. Any suitable piece of paper — paper napkin rings, foil candy wrappers — I’ll trim and tear it down to a square and start folding. Corner to corner, corner to corner, flatten, open, mountain fold, valley fold. I think I got into the habit around high school, when I stage managed a show set in a circus: huge inch-and-a-half wide confetti pieces were scattered all over the set, and I’d sit backstage sweeping them up, fidgeting and folding.

Right now I’m stage managing again, assisting on Book-It’s The Brothers K. Any rehearsal process has a certain amount of hurry-up-and-wait to it, whether it’s waiting to finish table work or waiting for the next scene transition. And when I’m waiting I either fidget or I get distracted by something with a screen. So a few weeks ago, I dug out a pack of small origami paper my mother gave me a while back, and I started making cranes.


First I finished up that pack — a little less than half the paper had already been folded and the cranes probably given away to someone or other. It didn’t take me nearly as long as I might have hoped to get through all the paper, and then to string the finished cranes together. And since it had taken so little time, I decided hell, I may as well make a thousand.

A group of one thousand paper cranes is called a senbazuru. They’re considered good luck symbols, and according to some sources, if a person folds a thousand cranes in a year, they are granted one wish. Famously, a young survivor of Hiroshima named Sadako Sasaki folded a thousand cranes after she was diagnosed with radiation-induced leukemia. Sadako and her cranes have become a symbol of a global longing for peace. I used to walk past the statue of her in the University District on a regular basis. She’s always draped with strings of cranes of every size — paper wishes, bright in Seattle’s rain and mist.

I’m superstitious enough to feel like most wishes are best kept to the wisher’s self. But it does seem appropriate, while working on an anti-war play, to fold these cranes with an anti-war intention. Or, more positively, a peaceful intention.

The prismatic string on the left here, hanging on our callboard, that’s the leftover paper I started with — probably a hundred or a hundred and fifty cranes. The string on the right is 272 cranes, the first pack of paper I finished and strung yesterday.

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emerge (v).

Here’s a thing I learned today! The verb “emerge” comes from the Latin emergere, from the roots “ex-,” meaning “out” and “mergere,” meaning “to dip or sink,” so the verb “emerge” creates an image of something coming up out of liquid. Snazzy.

This is relevant because next week I get to emerge onto Seattle stages as a writer, as part of the Intiman Emerging Artists Showcase — August 4-6 at the Center House in the Armory, 7:30 PM each night. (Admission is free! Just RSVP here.)


Look at this attractive and talented group of artists! Damn, son, that is a fine looking group of artists.

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Guys Catcall Me On The Street: A regrettably regular series

Women do not owe you their time or conversation, by Tatyana FazlalizadehLeaving Elliott Bay Books tonight after writing, I barely glanced in the direction of a couple of guys sitting on the windowsill outside Nube Green and was greeted with “How you doing, angel?” I ignored them and moved on, still lip-syncing along to whatever was playing in my headphones.

Waiting for the crosswalk outside Julia’s, still listening to music, I was approached by an obviously drunk guy who got juuust inside my personal space bubble* and initiated the following exchange:

Him: [slurred] ‘Scuse me, miss.

Me: Yes?

Him: Do you know this bar?

Me: No, I’ve never been in.

Him: I wanna drink.

Me: Well, it’s worth a shot.

Him: Let’s go.

Crosswalk light: [changes at this instant]

Me: Oh no I have to go home have a good evening bye!

He didn’t get threatening or anything, except for being slightly closer to me than I was comfortable with, but I hope I don’t have to explain why an attempted pick-up line by a drunk on a Wednesday night made me side-eye him pretty hard.

I don’t know why I keep blogging about this crap, except that a) it feels personally useful to keep a record of such things, and b) I seem to know a sufficient number of guys who have had no idea that this goes on regularly to women they know that I hope I can shed some light on the subject.

Nothing gets better if you don’t talk about it, anyway.

If you have a story to tell, you are always welcome here in the comments, or on Hollaback!

*Being five-foot-none tall, my personal bubble is probably a few inches larger than most people’s because if you are very tall and you get close to me, I have to crane my neck to see your face and that is not comfortable. My personal bubble gets even bigger and more rigidly defined when it’s after 9PM in Capitol Hill and I am by myself and you are a visibly drunk guy approaching me. GO FIGURE.

Raven, why’d you make the sky?

So I asked the raven as he passed by,
I said, “Tell me, raven, why’d you make the sky?”
“The moon and stars, I threw them high,
I needed someplace to be flying.”

– Kiya Heartwood, from “Wyoming Wind”
(via Charles de Lint’s Someplace to be Flying)

The other day I went for a walk with my parents around Green Lake, just as the sun was starting to go down. It was gray, and chilly, and the pathway was crammed with people out walking. Meanwhile, the trees were filled — filled — with crows. Like, several hundred crows, cawing and moving from tree to tree in great flocks.

It was kind of creepy and kind of beautiful, all those monochromatic grays and blacks and the raucous noise over the water, caught between Hitchcock and de Lint and Cooper.

A silvery day in Seattle

It’s the kind of day where the air is so cold it feels liquid. There’s a scene in A Swiftly Tilting Planet where Gaudior tries to teach Charles Wallace to drink moonlight, and that’s what days like this always feel like to me: that the world is full of water so cold and exquisitely clear that it’s become nearly intangible.

I think these things to make myself feel better about the prospect of spending nine hours in a metal box outside selling pies. Wish me luck.